Vision Board is Cute, But Where's the Work
Romanticizing your life requires action
Dear Auntie Abla,
How do I gently tell my best friend that her dreams of luxury vacations, meeting her soulmate, and rocking her perfect size 12 gown won’t magically happen if she doesn’t actually take action? She’s dreaming big but doing very little. I want to encourage her, but I don’t want to sound mean or unsupportive.
Signed, Dream Crusher or Dream Supporter
Dear Dream Crusher or Dream Supporter,
Sweetheart, welcome to one of life’s most delicate dances: how to tell your friend she needs to do the work without ruining Sunday Brunch.
Your friend has entered what I call:
“The Romanticizing Without Action Zone.”
It’s a beautiful place full of vision boards, Pinterest quotes, and manifestation journals. But here’s the truth every rich auntie knows:
Manifestation works best when it’s paired with discipline, habits, and small consistent action.
Now, let me offer you two approaches. Choose your flavor of delivery:
Door #1: The Gentle Push: Cheerleader with a Plan
Start by affirming her dreams, because every woman deserves to dream boldly.
Say this:
"Sis, I love that you see yourself sipping cocktails in Bali, meeting your person, and sliding into that gown looking like pure grace. Let’s make it happen! What’s one small thing you can start today? Baby steps lead to yachts, love stories, and that size 12 gown."
This keeps her motivated while gently introducing accountability. You're not dismissing her dreams, you’re guiding her toward the plan.
Door #2: The Real Talk: Auntie Abla’s Famous Truth Serum
Sometimes, you need to lovingly deliver the truth that no one else will say.
You say:
"Babe, I adore your vision board but let’s be real. Vacations, dream men, and size 12 gowns don’t show up through this living room walls or wishful thinking alone. Consistent habits build the life we want. Let’s pick one goal and start today. You’ve got this."
Direct. Honest. Still loving. Because vision boards don’t zip dresses, daily choices do.
Auntie’s Final Sip of Wisdom:
Romanticizing your life is a beautiful first step but without action, it's simply daydreaming in designer heels.
Small steps create big shifts. Consistency unlocks the dream.
If you truly love your friend, help her lace up her shoes, not just pin her fantasies.